So How Is Your Self Talk Today?

June 10, 2014

Do you pay any attention to how you talk to yourself? I caught myself yesterday with my “critical parent” voice in my head. I have been procrastinating on some projects I have going on for business and goals because Ive really been into the lazy hazy days of summer and wanting to be outside at the pool or at the beach! As a codependency coach, I teach my clients about giving themselves permission to enjoy life in a balanced way that brings them joy and not demanding perfection of getting everything right (a sign of shame). By now, I am very aware of my triggers to get into those codependent crazies as I call them and watch how I am speaking and treating myself. Yesterday, I was fighting those voices that were trying to shame me into what I “haven’t done yet and how far behind I am”, creating that crappy feeling of “not good enough” I quickly gave myself permission to enjoy and like where I am right now and did some affirmations on self love and fun to help me shift.
The words that we use to describe and speak to ourselves deeply affect our self esteem and sense of self-love. This includes what you say, think, write, or even joke about yourself. We are learning to take care of ourselves and treat ourselves with unconditional love as a mother would take care of her little baby with gentleness, unconditional love, nurturing and grace. We have responsibilities to our own self, not just others which has been our pattern…..to put others needs before our own. Part of that responsibility is to speak lovingly and gently to ourselves.
Take one day at a time and pay attention to your self talk. Use beautiful words to describe yourself and think about how you would speak so lovingly to an infant child that is so innocent. This isn’t to be conceited, but to affirm your Divine nature as a beautiful child of God.
When you use loving words and thoughts toward yourself your speaking your truth as God sees you. After all, isn’t that our goal? To see ourselves through the eyes of our maker who loves the totality of us, flaws and all. Doing this will elevate us to the highest vibration possible, where miracles and healing really occurs.
Enjoy the feelings of peace that develop as you learn to honor and respect yourself.

Love, Debbie/codependency coach