Do you hear a voice in your head that says things like, “you should’ve exercised today,” or “you shouldn’t have eaten that?”
The word “should” is defined as a word used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone’s actions. When you hear the word “should” in your head you can be sure that you’re being overly critical of yourself. “Should” is never the best motivation for eating well or exercising. It suggests something that is expected of you but that you don’t really want to do. And no one likes doing something just because they “should”. So, if you’re not going to take right actions because you “should,” what else can you use to motivate you? It’s better to motivate yourself by viewing eating well and exercising as loving self-caring actions. A way to love on yourself! Remember how empowered you feel when you make those kinds of choices. Don’t do the right thing because you “should.” Do the right thing because it’s what you deserve.
“I should” can be shaming. “I could” is a choice.
During this time of year, I hear my clients beat themselves up for going overboard. Either making excuses as to why they cant eat and exercise this time of year, or judging an shaming themselves. Be gentle with yourself right now. Moderation and balance is key. Again, putting healthy foods in our bodies and exercising is a form of self-love. When I went to the gym yesterday, I really did not “feel” like exercising, but I knew if I did, I would feel great after. And I did!
Watch your thoughts during the holidays. Thoughts are changed before behavior. Journaling is a great tool for getting our thoughts out on paper to see how we talk to ourselves.
Praise, love, hug, and appreciate who you are today, just as you are. That is the beginning of making real changes.
Much Love, Debbie